Getting over a crush can be more challenging than getting over a serious relationship. All the “what if” scenarios are catastrophic, but they are also what keep us interested (despite the obvious exit signs).
Without ever meeting them, we idolize and fantasize about this person. Because we lack conclusive evidence, it is far more challenging to abandon them. Everything is made up in our heads. There are, however, many good reasons to “move on” from someone, even if you are no longer in a committed relationship with them. Don’t let yourself get hooked on “what ifs” that don’t exist outside of your own thoughts.
Here are four warning signals that your crush is not worth your time:
1. They treat you as though you don’t exist.Even if you flood their Snapchat and Instagram feeds with thirst traps, they won’t pay attention. If they aren’t responding to your blatant signals, it’s likely because they aren’t interested in you. Please take this as a sign and move on.
2. Flirting is all you do.You can certainly try talking to them. However, if you never get beyond light flirting and into deeper conversations, it’s likely nothing more than physical attraction. A person who is interested in you on a personal level will make an effort to learn more about you. If they aren’t taking advantage of the playful back-and-forth you have, it’s because they aren’t interested in you. Keep going.
Third, your fixation is becoming unhealthy.It’s not easy to see the early warning signs of developing an unhealthy obsession with or dependence on another person. It’s human nature to think about the perfect existence with your crush and daydream about them. But if you can’t stop thinking about them, reliving your conversations with them in your thoughts, or letting them influence your disposition on a regular basis, you may have become too attached to your crush. Start thinking about how you can improve your own life. Don’t let the slim chance of getting together with your crush stop you from taking care of yourself. Once you’ve learned to concentrate and value yourself, the right person will enter your life.
In the fourth place, they are in a committed relationship with someone else.This may sound apparent, yet many people choose to sit it out or accept a role as a “side piece” until the primary relationship collapses. But that’s probably where you’ll remain for the rest of their existence. Because you don’t see yourself as worthy of a committed partner, no one else will either. Don’t settle for “second best” when you deserve better. Find someone without all the baggage and save yourself the trouble.
It’s not easy to tell when you’ve outgrown a crush and need to shift your attention elsewhere. It’s easier in theory than in practice, but it’s not impossible with enough motivation. Rather than hoping that they’ll eventually want you, you should seek out someone who already wants you for who you are. Never go after someone who expresses a desire not to be pursued. You’re not the lime, but the tequila!
